About BoinQ

BoinQ is a South African produced podcast showcasing conversations that start off in human sexuality – but don’t necessarily stay there. The intention is to open up the conversations I have with the incredibly fascinating people I brush shoulders with professionally to a wider audience who may or may not work in sexuality and mental health. These are sometimes difficult and challenging topics and my hope is that this podcast will give other people a starting point and permission to talk about the tough stuff, to question everything, to respectfully entertain ideas that you may not agree with, to build bridges, to find similarities and to celebrate the differences. The intention is take ideas and explore them without simplifying or sanitising them. We want to keep it complex and messy. Like sexuality. And life.

What you can expect from a BoinQ episode

Each episode starts with ‘BoinQ Quickies’ – this is a brief Q&A segment based on questions people have asked, emailed, texted, phoned and carrier pidgeoned to me over the years. We of course include questions not only asked by you personally, but those asked on behalf of friends. They are brief responses to relatively straight forward questions, although certainly not the final word that could be said. If you would like to send in a Boinq Quickie question for us – or you would like to ask for a friend – please feel free to email us at quickie@boinq.co.za.

Then we segue into the main course where we’ll tuck into a meaty discussion with a guest or three who will help us unpack the nuances and nooks of the episode’s topic. We tackle a huge variety of issues like ethics in bodywork, the politics of polyamory, feminist BDSM, space sex and cyborgs.

You can totally expect Les, our resident ‘every guy’, to interrupt the discussion with questions about defining terms, breaking down assumptions, and generally asking the stuff a lay person would. My intention is to pitch discussions at an informed level – these are the conversations happening at my proverbial water cooler – and to allow Les to poke myself and guests when we’re talking jargon and terms that are not colloquial or are deeply contested.

If you’d like to suggest a topic, recommend a guest for us to invite, or you want to join us for an episode please email us at info@boinq.co.za

A short note about trigger warnings

This podcast delves into human sexuality and episodes will invariably contain frank and explicit talk about bodies, identities, and trauma of various kinds. Our intention is to move into these discussions in the spirit of consensual mutual engagement – if you would like to listen, please be informed that you may encounter some difficult and triggering content. We leave the choice to proceed in your hands.

About Avri

My fancy work title is psychosexual consultant. I’m a roaming Johannesburg-based freelancer that works in the spaces where sexuality and mental health meet. As a fringe dweller myself, I have a special passion and place in my heart for identities and communities that don’t fall into the mainstream. I work with polyamorists, kinksters, the lesbian, gay, bisexual, intersex, queer, gender non-conforming, asexual and transgender community, gamers, geeks, and people who use drugs. Philosophically I describe myself as a harm reduction intertextualist – a position I’m happy to flesh out one day in a BoinQ episode. My intention is to get comfortable in the uncomfortable places; to map difficult conversations; to question all my dearly held truths; to grow and connect; and to invite others to do the same. I have some degrees and qualifications in Journalism, Media Studies, Sexology and Applied Psychology and am currently doing a Masters in Community-Based Counselling.

About Les

Growing up a comic book and D&D nerd set Les on a life of geekery. Starting out in IT, with forays into sales and training, Les eventually landed a gig doing webinars and online presentations for clients around the globe before striking out and running his own business. Listening to a vast array of awesome podcasts (like this one, this one, oh and this one and this one) inspired him to want to do one of his own … which led to the Release The Geek podcast. Now, he partners with Avri Spilka to help explore the complex and messy aspects of sexuality across all spectrums, and tries to avoid wearing blue shirts when they record. You can reach him at les@geekxp.co.za